flowers

I reckon 

A few months back when i was still working my arse off in the holidays

A colleague of mine once did this:

She came to me and said this after she went to the toilet 

"Eve, I saw a bouquet of nice flowers at the flower shop, feel like buying for myself."

I was taken aback 

No rationale person will buy flowers out of the blue herself 

It is only now that i have realize why she felt that way... 

Here's the story 

She had a fiance

she was about to get married end of the year

the sad thing was 

she found out one night

her other half two timed her 

ouch! 

Yes its a very hard situation for her 

but she got over it clam and strong

I always admire her for being able to do this 

Then she thought there was this new guy again in her life 

She was at the stage ready to accept his affections

later did she realize 

he was married to

and this new guy has a wife back in his home town 

Double ouch!! 

it is no wonder why she feel so sad,

at this point in time

i think a bouquet of flowers could really made her day 

and i guess she had no one else to rely on understanding this two set backs

Even after hearing her stories 

I cannot fig out there was a link to the flowers 

So i guess tats why she wanted to do it for herself 

i wonder why does guys act or behave this way 

i guess its not just guys 

i have met situations where girls leave after years of relationship 

two years back

my dad too 2 timed 

richard was saying - 

"sometimes u will just do the wrong thing, but if the other half realize he or she was wrong 

than just forgive and forget"

 

to me it doesnt work tat way

if anyone learnt game theory in economics 

general behavior will be as follows

(prisoner's dilemma)

if both parties trust each other and co-operate they will be better off in the long run 

but if one parties default 

it will result in the other party defaulting as well in the long run 

sth like tat 

chim i noe 

So i dun really agree with what richard say 

if one has defaulted in the trust 

it can be very hard to trust back again 

my colleague has been defaulted twice 

it is no wonder she feels this way 

and i do agree with her 

perhaps getting a bouquet of flower for herself to cheer herself up is the best way 

i feel guilty for not realizing it den 

Although Now i m not in her shoes 

but just in fear tat this default may come true soon

And when i looked at these flowers 

it did made me feel a little better 

maybe i should drive down to the florist near my house later

and cheer myself up

its time to learn to be more independent and strong 

eve out